Childhood Trauma, and Recovery

The drama of life unfolds in early childhood. The family dynamics, the relationship between the parents, and everything that goes on, around the child , forms a kind of roadmap for the child. ” This is what life is going to be like for me, this is what I can expect”. No child actually thinks these thoughts, but this is the feeling that the child is going to carry all through life, unless there is a conscious intervention, and interruption in the pattern that slowly begins to get deeply embedded in the child’s mind. The Mother is a key component in determining how life will unfold for a child. A happy mother is a wonderful gift for a child, we are not talking of superficial, or pretended happiness. We are talking of an emotionally healthy mother, who is able to handle her emotions in a healthy, balanced way. How the mother FEELS, what happens to her, and around her, how she processes those events, and emotions, is to a large measure responsible for the physical, and emotional health of her adult child, whether son, or daughter. The mother – child relationship is the first area that needs to be looked into, and healed, in the event of any sickness, trauma, suicidal tendencies, marital issues in an adult’s life.Trauma is not always about wars, murders, and rapes, rather, trauma is the way a child processes everything that it gets to experience in early childhood. As a society, we tend to think of mental illness, as something abnormal.Far from it, mental illness is a normal response to an abnormal set of circumstances in early childhood. Depression, acute anxiety, and all the other labels we give to difficult emotional states, are simply remembered responses to difficult emotional circumstances in early childhood. I offer one on one counselling for all such problematic conditions.